Efficient Parenting

As I was always working,  I always felt guilty that I am not able to give time to my son... Although I do my best to give him time. So, now as I have time I now tend to pamper him a lot. I feel like doing everything for him... Dress him up, make him sleep.... Yesterday my husband told me to stop pampering him too much all of a sudden now and that I am creating problem for myself. The new baby is due in Jan 2014 and per him when I will get busy with the baby, my son will then feel neglected. Also that he needs to be independent.  Point to ponder......